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Rhapsody said:How can we solve the problems / issues between a few on here if we are never allowed to talk about it openly - as to end the battle?

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Rhap has put into words a belief that I think a lot of members share. The idea is that if everyone was just allowed to be open and say whatever they want to each other we'd be able to work through the problems and issues and end the battles. Sadly, experience tells a different story.

If every issue was based on simple misunderstandings, then open communication would be the answer. The reality, however, is that some of the worst problems, issues, and battles are the result of this wide-open communication.

I think this is a little easier to see in our 3D lives. We know that there are people that simply don't like us, and maybe we don't like them. We spend some time and energy trying to bring them around, but we realize that being open and trying to "clear the air" isn't helping. Interactions just lead to more arguments and frustrations. So we back off. Maybe we can approach things again later and the relationship will improve; maybe it won't.

It might be helpful to bring that 3D mode of thinking into the forums. Realize that even in a wonderful place like this, there are people who aren't going to like each other very much--it doesn't mean that either one of them is a bad person, or that we have to spend a lot of time trying to figure out who is right and wrong.