Thanks (((Rhap)))

In being honest, I want to continue and say...

I don't just backup the guidelines because I think they're rules. I've actually had to apply them, and seen them applied so much to know that *in general/on average* they work for the best of most to all.

We have to maybe look to see that when we post about private conflict with another member to gain support for ourselves, we're also at the same time, flaming the other member(s) potentially and the others involved feel attacked, and even emotionally hurt/harmed. It's more than just getting support. When we do it vaguely, many members can jump on and offer support, not even realizing that they might be hurting another member's feelings...possibly even someone they're very close to. Then that other member gets hurt and can get angry at the members who responded to a vague post. See how it splinters and grows? In a forum, posting publicly involves all on some level...certainly more than just a few.

I think the golden rule is the best rule. That goes back to Des's first post... It made me think and I'm really going to try to respond more. I read ALOT, but have slacked off on my responses and that's something I'm going to work on...starting tonight. There is a reason, but that really doesn't matter now because I think it's becoming a habit...one I don't care for about myself. I'm gonna start putting down the thoughts that I have the those members should hear them, because the thoughts reflect care...smacking my own hand.

KD