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Originally Posted by CantExplain
That is a very difficult and painful thing to accept.
I cried for a week.
Here's the interesting part.
Once I accepted that she couldn't satisfy all my needs, I became much more aware of what she did do for me.
When I wanted everything, she wasn't enough.
When I accepted that, it turned out she was enough.
Very strange, but a good outcome in the end.
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Thanks very much, CantExplain. I have thought that way at times, but for some reason it doesn't last. I've cried a lot about what T can't be. And what former Ts can't be either. I grieve, cry, accept but the cycle still repeats and I don't know why! I am aware of what my T does for me yet I am still angry and sad. More sad now than angry, because it's a loss that I know I MUST accept. I am glad that you're in a better place than me. It helps to know that you understand and have the feelings you do. I hope I get there too. The hurt is SO huge for me........ yet I KNOW my T does a lot for me. It's like comparing apples and oranges to me though. I've GOT to get past this. But how? Intellectually I understand it but my emotional mind is still stuck in that place of wanting.....
When she says "it's not about me" I feel this awful pain. It feels like it NEEDS to be about her, not that I WANT it to be.