I can really relate to what you are saying. Actually, this is a real addiction. I know because I've been in a lot of therapies and learned about addictions, and I'm also addicted to others. For what reason, I don't know. Fear of abandonment? fear of being alone? Who knows. Yes, this can be very painful. It has been for me.

Ignore your support groups, because they may not even think this is an addiction, when it really is. I have a lot of addictions, which many people may not even consider addictions...like SI...that's one of my biggest addictions...so just know that they don't walk in your shoes, and they don't have this afflicting them. Well, they may, but they don't recognize it. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone. And remember, these group members are clients, they are not a therapist or pdoc. That's why they're there.