Your idea about the dog food was quite cute and funny (if he were not abusive and dangerous).

I really don't mean to sound harsh...I know how fabulous it feels to FINALLY get support when struggling and in pain. I found that support here and I am eternally grateful. I have made good friends here that I respect and look forward to hearing from them. We all struggle, some days are better than others, and we support each other. Something many of us do not get IRL. That is how we found each other There are lovely people here.

That said, based on your H's behavior (just) yesterday, although you are receiving lots of support here, I really urge you to start putting together your exit/safety plan in place. I know it's hard...but please consider it.

hugs to you and your daughter.