Hi and hope things are OK. Sounds like your H is really losing the plot. Maybe he can sense a loss of control over you since you have become a bit more empowered after posting on the forum. It happened to me when I first started posting I suddenly felt so strong and confident and I had an air of "you can't touch me" which I think got up my H's nose. They hate it when they don't get the response that they want - a bit like a disobedient dog. So why don't you call the cops next time he starts chucking things around?? After that you can get an AVO (? do u have that in the USA) out on him which will provide you and your daughter with a bit of safety. This man sounds like an A Class abuser with an obvious disorder. You and your needs have become lost in this relationship and in fact you are displaying typical codependent behaviour where you are being controlled and manipulated by this beast. You don't need to put up with this crap anymore as you have tolerated far more than you should have anyway. This moment of truth where you now recognize and acknowledge that his behaviour is abusive and unacceptable can be a confusing time in which a mixture of feelings will dominate your thoughts but the one thing is that you are finally released from the self doubt that has existed in your thoughts and emotions about whether he is off base or you are. This gives you power so believe in yourself and use this new found confidence and strength to finally fight back and put him in his place. You and your daughter deserve much better than this. Be careful and best of luck xxx