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Leed · Sep 21, 2012, 05:12 PM

Hi Avoice ~ I'm so sorry you're going thru this. I know how difficult this is, as I had to set some difficult boundaries for my own son, and didn't abide by them so he had to leave. Now he's back after having gone into TOTAL liver failure, and almost died. His liver isn't working well right now, but he's alive. We dont know what the prognosis is, but we're hopeful.

You MUST set boundaries for your own son, and demand that he stop smoking this junk in your home. And remind him that this is YOUR home, and he's a "temporary resident." Tell him he MUST abide by your rules or he MUST GET OUT. And be prepared to stand by those rules. It is very hard to do. Avoice, and you'll worry about him when he's gone, but if you don't make him go (assuming he breaks the rules) then you'll be enabling him and that isn't doing him any good at all.

I'd suggest you go to some Al-Anon meetings or Nar-Anon. The Al-Anon meetings are better, from what I hear. I've never been to a Nar-Anon meeting but others have said that Al-Anon is better. Please go to some and get the support you need. It's important, sweetie.

God bless you and keep posting here too about this. I wish you the best. You know where I am if you want to talk. Hugs, Lee