{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Tomi)))))))))))))))))))
I'm sorry that she's being so difficult and keeping the kids away from you. You're right, it is simply hurting them and confusing - all at the same. If that doesn't sound like a therapy session down the road, I don't know what does.
I care about you - I hate to see you letting your DIL upset you to the point where you want to choke her (I have a few of those urges myself as well).
Does Jerry say anything about these issues or try to remain neutral? Just wondered if he was standing behind you and supporting you/offering them sound advice to listen to you.
Please take care of you.
Mary Alice