I recently moved across the country and met an angel. We started dating and after around a year, we were engaged. a year later we were married.
The same week of our engagement I joined the military. I'm 19 and she's 18 and we agreed to go back and forth between my and her parents house until I leave for basic.

I have family up here from Arizona as well as things I need to get done before I leave for basic in 9 days. I need to be home. Everytime I come home, I stay a few days and my wife and I get into a HUGE argument and basically my parents kick us out. She can't stay at my house without getting really crabby so I figured I'd take her home so all the week before I leave, I wouldn't have to worry about it. I planned to be there for 3 days tops. Well, my inlaws wanted to do something the following saturday so I changed it and said we'd come back that sunday. I had to come back to get clothes and my mom had a doctors app that my wife said she'd take her to so we came back to my house.
My wife didn't seem to want to get out of the car. I have things to do so I tried to get as much as possible done while she kept rushing me and reminding me of the time, I got overwhelmed and told her to stop. She wanted to go back, cause her dad asked her to clean bird cages and she didn't. Her urgency was that she wanted to get home to clean the cages before she went to bed. At least one cage she kept saying... After an argument that ended with my mom intervening and kicking us out, we went back. We got back in town around 7 or 8 and we went to dinner before going home. The next morning, she did the bird cages and i got a phone call from home saying that it upset everyone that I came, fought and just left without really spending time with anyone.

So I told her that after the cages are done, im going home. We fought because we rushed out of my home back to hers so she could clean her bird cages, and she still put it off to the next day. Eventually i called home to get picked up. (I have no car.) we continued to fight and eventually she called her mom home from work, by the time she got there it was pretty much over, and she agreed with me that we need to follow through with our commitments and that if we have conflicting schedules we need to be apart to fulfill them. I came home and my wife is still sulking at her parents house, 6 hours later.

We've been fighting non-stop since we got married and a little before. I want to say its stress from me leaving, but it's getting to be too much. I think the first 3 weeks of my marriage right before I leave for basic for a really long time, shouldn't be filled with constent fighting arguing and bickering. My parents reminded me that when I come back, and we go to my duty station, things are only going to be harder if it continues.

I don't want that.

In your opinion, what would you do?