Hi ink

glad you are ok so far.

i hope you can be more specific with this guy in the future. if he asks you to dinner again, don't give an excuse, just tell him you are not interested. if you give him an excuse you are giving him a reason to try another tactic like inviting you out to a movie or something, and in his mind even an expectation of success in the future.

if he blocks your entrance to the building again i would try to avoid getting sucked into a conversation with him again. tell him yes I heard you say your were sorry but i want to go to my apt now. if he keeps you remind him that him keeping you there is the kind of thing that he needs to stop doing or else he will be apologizing for it in the future.

use your judgement with this. be gentler if you have a sense that being firm with him might anger him. and you probably did the right thing by not making too much of an issue of it in a dark parking lot.

other people have asked and i'll ask again, (sorry if you answered this already) do you carry a can of pepper spray with you? if you see him again in the parking lot or something take the safety off and keep it in your hand ready to use if necessary.

good luck with this and please continue to let us know how you are doing.

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