i'd like to emphasize that just because someone doesn't agree with you, that's not an attack. that is a person who is simply saying, "i don't agree with you".......

if a dialogue is initiated and you don't get the end result that you aimed for, it could be that it isn't because you're "disliked" it means that the person just doesn't share your views. nothing less and nothing more....

no one is going to agree with every one here. it just isn't possible.

and if we all agreed upon everything, it would, indeed, be a dull place and not very supportive.....we'd all be in the very same boat. and there would be no point in having PC.

we all come here with different life experiences......all of us........and allowing one another to live, with their foundations, is sensible. to expect to wrench them from their world into ours is irrational and exhausting.....is it not?

of course, if we're asking for help in dealing with something in our life, then someone may, just may, have an answer that the poster can use. maybe not.

no one here has an answer for everyone, for every problem or for every question...........to think so, is to be frustrated, angry, whiny and extremely unhappy. i KNOW that i can't help very many but that doesn't bother me. i'll help those who ask me to and go on..........

des, i'm sorry that this thread has taken a turn away from your original post.

however, maybe it has helped us understand more where we all are coming from.....thus, some feel ignored and now maybe we know why......does that make sense?

i don't want you to feel invisible here...you aren't invisible to me. i read every post that you write.

and i agree with KD wholeheartedly about posting "asides" that might cause one, just one, poster to feel that you may be alluding to them. if you're feeling supportive, is it worth it to cause one person to experience that paranoia that might come from the post? there are posters here who are so very fragile and vulnerable and could feel attacked.......and not know why.

but if one, just one, thinks i'm "talking" about them, i'm going to feel lousy about that for a very long time......so, i'll take it to PMs. and if you need to PM me, do so. i promise to always answer and tell the truth about how i feel about any given situation and/or question......and if we still disagree, then just agree to disagree......life is too short to keep trying to find the perfect apple in the barrel......(i'm grasping here now.... ..i had another nightmare and am feeling it right now)

i'm outta here......there is trim to be painted and work to be done......this is a good thread....xoxox pat