just read the rest of the rest of the post, the children are grown. Its time to take your life in your own hands. Its time to live this life for yourself. You have raised your children, you were a good mother and held your marriage together for your children through their childhood and now they are grown. Its time for you to be happy. It is time for you to feel needed wanted and everything you have not felt in this loveless marriage. I can not imagine not feeling these things. When my husband and I have our rough patches I throw a fit because I have to feel it, I have to know I am needed and wanted and desired. If I dont feel it from him there is always others out there trying to show it you know what I mean. Not that I want that but its always there. I just always demand my attention and affection. Its a requirement in a realationship. I just feel like you can say I love you all day long but not feel it without being touched. Even if its just a little hug or holding hands or snuggling on the couch. Doesnt have to be sexual. But then again sexual contact is pretty important too. Even though later in marriages it doesnt come as often it should still exist. Im just trying to say its time to take your life in your own hands and start living your life for you. Make you happy and your kids will be happy for you. It may be strange in the beginning for everyone because change is always strange but change can be a very good exciting step in life too.