Hi DAMF - Im not sure whether marriage counselling is the most appealing thing you'd want to do as soon as you have leave but if you value the commitment you made to this woman and want to work things out this is really the only option. To my mind you have a lot on your plate as it is and you're still very young - if you want to make a go of it you have to be 100% commited to doing so otherwise you might as well save both yourself and your wife a lot of time and heartache and either take a break and see how things go, or if you're absolutely certain you cannot reconcile your differences - call it quits. I think this personally would be a great shame but the only person who can come to this decision is you, so think long and hard about it and once you know the answer - be determined and don't second guess yourself. Hope ive been of some help. Good luck with your training.