Ways of coping during childhood follow us into adulthood; therefore, it may be very beneficial to go back to the root in order to change the behavior. Esp if it is causing situations where we have not learned to put ourselves first, to look at ourselves in a positive light (or simply just human) or if we are stuck. Which generally brings many of us to T in the first place.

I am not sure you understand the importance parents / caregivers play in the development of a child. Or the importance of growing up feeling loved and valued. And if that was missing, how it impacts us. Jmo