My T has said my childhood is why relationships developed wrong. Why my need for attachment and dependency is there. Its why he understands the way I am with him. Why I cope the way I do with situations, and why I react the way I do. BUT he is very clear that my past and my childhood can not simply CONTROL my present and my future. That I need to work to try and get past it. That know we understand the reason we can move forward in a positive direction.