Big Mama

You write a lot of your situation, and you seem to be going around and around. You know the way he treats you and your children is wrong, and now you admit that he makes you ill, as well as unhappy. Your situation is so hard, and I do feel for you.

I understand why you wrote about your hubby but am afraid that as much as I feel sadness for his childhood, he's an adult now, knows how wrong abuse is and makes his own choices. Just as its your choice to stay. I would never think you weak to stay with this man, actually the opposite. You know he treats you wrong, he doesnt get enough help to help himself, and you fear the damage to your children. It must be darn hard to stay. If that's right or wrong for you and your children, only you can decide that.