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Originally Posted by button30
This is part of my whole problem is communication, I tell her everything by email and can't tell her anything in person. I would like to work on it with her though but it doesn't seem something I can do right now.
I have a huge problem expressing my needs and wants and with confrontation and everything. Sometimes I just sit there and say nothing to her and she just sits there quietly and watches me and I just want to crawl under a rock and never come out. I even hate people looking at me or noticing me. She always comments on what I am wearing, saying how nice it is and I never know what to say back and I just get embarrassed and look away. I would like to tell her she looks nice too but I think that would be inappropriate and the words wouldn't come out.
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((((button30)))) I can completely relate to this. I was telling my T everything in email and on the phone then having mute/unproductive sessions. For me it just took time and having my T push me when he saw that email and other contact wasn't helping. He never told me to stop contacting him, he would just persist each time we spoke, that we needed to address the issues in person.
I really lack confidence and self worth and my reaction to T's compliments are the same as yours. Try not to be too hard on yourself. When you are ready you will know it.