I feel a bit like the parents are the scapegoat for a lot of peoples' problems nowadays. This does not include people who received abuse ofcourse... that is a whole other kettle of fish. In my years of therapy, it seems that therapists are all too eager to throw out the "its not your fault, your parents just sucked" line. I don't think any kid on the face of the planet had what therapists would call a "healthy upbringing". I do not want to avoid responsibility for my issues by just blaming my parents and putting it on them. I do not want to hide behind the "its not my fault, its my parents fault" thing because then I would be avoiding responsibility. That is what kids do. I am what I am today because of ME. I have been living away from my parents for longer than i was there with them, so blaming them would be rather lame. I think these days people like to sit there and point fingers to avoid tackling the real issue... how do we deal with this NOW?