Hmmm I think that borders on feelings of paranoia? I have often come on site and read a thread and found something all on my own, with no PMs (which I pick up first.) I have been notified of a thread in a PM, sure... but even that doesn't automatically evoke a response. I think there are just as many PMs that say, will you look at that thread, am I reading them right? Am I overreacting???

I don't know, what else do you want members to use the PM capability for? If they want an offsite friendship, they can email. hmmmmmm