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Sep 23, 2012, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Leed

Hi hon ! I sounds to me like you want some sort of change, but you aren't sure what you want. You're afraid to make any decision for fear of making the wrong one so you stay in limbo.

That's not a good place to be -- making ANY decision is better than making none. You can't stay in limbo forever. I'd rather make the WRONG decision than not make one at all. You can always correct the one you made.

I hope you don't think I'm judgiingyou because I'm certainly NOT. I used to be caught in limbo myself. I could NEVER make decisions after I got divorced, so I had to seek therapy to get my power back that my husband had taken from me in our marriage. He had completely controlled me to the point that I had no self-esteem at all. Therapy gave it BACK to me, and also gave me my POWER back so that I could make decisions on my own.

Perhaps therapy would help you too. Being in limbo is no fun. Therapy helps you out of limbo and into the stream of things so you can make decisions live the way you want to live. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee

This is so it! I'm stuck in limbo and it's horrible. I want to change. The change could be good, but it's drastic life-changing and scary. I wish I could give exact details on the particular issue at hand but I do have a fear of judgement at hand. I just wanted advice from the point of view as to how do you go about making a decision. This sounds obvious enough, but it's just not.

I'm scared that if I decide to accept the change, then it will be a mistake I can never take back, but if I don't take the chance I will stay stuck in this hum drum state.