candybear, i seriously doubt that you need to cower or worry about being slammed. if you will read the thread in General about PC Frustrations, there are things in there that will reassure you. please read the entire thread.

we're all coming to this thread from different life experiences and we will all respond differently.

technically, i wasn't a single mother. everything that counted meant i was. my mother made all of my children's clothes and bought most of our groceries...we would not have had either if it had not been for her.

i worked and took care of two little children..with no help from him. he was at a bar or passed out in the LR. i paid all of the utilities and maintained the vehicle. when i left him, i had one pair of jeans, two teeshirts and a couple of pairs of panties and two bras..and some sandals and one pair of sneakers. it all fit into a grocery bag with room to spare.

and he still isn't a father to them. i've been both the mother and father for 39 and 36 years......

please don't feel as if what you said will cause you grief. i don't believe that anyone here is going to do anything to hurt you.