Thank you Petunia I always like all the helpful and informative links you post in PC I will be reading this a FEW times till it sinks in

I liked this a lot I find it most helpful

"No matter how you felt during the abuse or feel now, you are not responsible for the abuse. Even if you felt some pleasure or enjoyment; or you wanted some aspects to continue; or you were sexually attracted to the abuser; or you sought the abuser out, the abuser is always responsible for the abuse and not the child. Think about it this way: if a child sought you out for sexual stimulation, would you do it? "