Having a baby and desiring to raise it alone for a time can work because it sorta worked for me. Later I was hurting and sad and chose a lover to give me needed attention and to show me the masculine side of fatherhoodishness. So bernie was able to supply me and Ralphers that needed component. Me and him stayed together (unmarried- shacked up) for around 4 years and we fought sometimes but mostly it was cushy (and he had a 8 yr old son.) I remember how it felt like the best time of my entire life. The component to freedom (not being married but in love with a very special someone) really had me lit. The babies read dad had started to do crack and I dumped him right away (I was just pregnant and didn't appreciate his hyper party additude) The only thing Bert and I previously did was travel cross country, sing together, and do art work and somehow he got addicted to street drugs.

Well my son turned out. But he and I aren't "Normal," believe me.
Life is not a dress rehersal but it is fun, just make the effort and try not quitting, really put in effort one day at a time and with that and a little faith in a higher power all things are possible. Plus Honesty and Trust comming from within really have been the bigger help for my strongness.