Most of my T's have been male. All of the male T's I've instantly connected to. My first female T really offended and belittled me. Currently my T is a female which was / is very hard to get use to. I have a completely different relationship with male T's than I do with female T's. I'm very light-heart & open with male T and very serious & closed with female T's. That said my next T will probably be a female. I think it all depends on how you respond to the T's gender but with those numbers I'd try a male T again.