Hi steph, sorry you are having it so hard. You say that your problems don’t stem from your current relationship. Fair enough. But having someone yell at us is a form of verbal abuse… as then one is scared of that person or one has to tip toe around them. You write that he doesn’t know he could be hurting me, well please tell him so he knows exactly where you’re coming from.

Would he not be willing, at least for the sake of the children, to get some help (couples counselling, anger management) as it is affecting you – and probably the kids who are keenly aware of when mummy and daddy are fighting (or when daddy is shouting).

If he loves you, as you state, surely he would want the best for you and the children. Yes, it could be a lot worse, but this does not mean you should have to go through this being as unhappy and lonely. You deserve understanding and love… and support in/from your relationship.