For your own safety I would say you and your husband should have him move out.... for no one can help your brother until he is ready to stop this behavior.
You should not have to suffer along with him, nor should you have to hold onto fear for your brothers anger or possible violent outbreak when he is drunk.

IMO - your brother needs to seek help for the wounds that he is using alcohol to cover up.

BTW - YOU are being a good and supportive sister.... as best as you can right now.


LoVe,
Rhapsody - (((( hugs ))))