My husband came home for his five days off. Thats why I wasn't here for a few days - he wouldn't understand my need to come here.

Anyway, after a couple of days of him being home I started to get irritated by his criticisms. I had been trying so hard to be positive about myself. Even the things that he thinks are jokes erode my confidence now and he just doesn't get that. I told him that a couple of people complimented me on hair at work and he said laughing, "The liked THAT?"

So I tried to talk to him about it but he got defensive. He says he's trying to help me by pointing out my flaws. If I'm not told what is wrong with me, how can I fix the problems? I told him that I need to hear what is good about me...what he likes about me. His reply - He's not a woman. That's the kind of things a woman might say. Men don't say things like that. What am I anyway, a child, that I need to hear stuff like that?

Well, I ended up just crying. It seems like I'm going to get nowhere here.

dexter - I tried to read you Understanding Depression article but I couldn't open it even with Acrobat reader.