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Originally Posted by gettingthere2003
I am new to this board so I am not sure what to expect. Does anyone out there have a Mom with schizoid personality disorder? My therapist says that it sounds like that is what my mom has. Mom also has problems with depression that she is in denial about. My mom was completely emotionally unavailable to me. I have no memories of her hugging me or telling me she loves me. She never smiled at me. She would ignore me when she was angry with me, and nothing I ever did was good enough. As I reached my teen years and early 20s she became more emotionally abusive. She referred to me as a slut and has accused me of trying to be seductive to my uncles. Which I would never do. I wasn't promiscuous either. When I left her house my self esteem was in the gutter. therapy helped a lot. I confronted her by letter regarding the emotional abuse and neglect. she denied it and my father refuses to believe me. I have been made the black sheep of the family because I am the only one who had the courage to confront her. It is also painful that my siblings don't believe me even though some of them have had lots of the same experiences with her. They tell me to stick by family no matter what. I believe more in setting healthy boundaries. I can't go back to being that depressed. I finally feel like I am getting stronger now.
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I think you are right to set healthy boundaries. Do what you need to do to keep yourself safe and healthy. I don't have a mom with this same disorder but I relate to your situation because one of my siblings and my father have personality disorders (my sister also has schizophrenia apparently). I am familiar with the problem of other not believing the destructive behaviours that these people can engage in. Other family members are often the worst for not believing you - they may have always seen a whole different side to the offending person. You know the truth though. Find others you trust whom you can confide in. I read a really good and useful book recently called Out of the Fog. There is another called something like Walking on Eggshells. Sorry, I'm not very good at remembering titles. They describe your situation and many others similar and give a lot of supportive advice. Take care.