Hey Kyo,

Well I understand, is all I have to say.

I'm all for spirituality and have beliefs of my own. I tend to keep mine very close to me and private, because it is just that..a very personal belief and experience in my opinion. All I know is that I have a problem when other people pressure others to believe exactly the same things. It's hard, and it's a very sensitive topic.

I don't feel there's anything wrong with what you're feeling or saying. You respect their beliefs you sincerely do...yours just don't align with theirs. It can cause all kinds of problems, especially in families. It's important for your parents to understand that you aren't going to turn out just like them: beliefs and values included.

Have you tried sitting down and talking to them? Giving them specific reasons why you don't feel comfortable with their beliefs, you don't have to be overlly critical, just honest . If they care enough for you, they'll LISTEN at least, they don't have to agree, and you don't have to agree. You can agree to disagree. You can tell them that you respect what they're trying to do, and you see their good intentions...You are an adult afterall, you don't have to go along with them anymore. You can always make a compromise, if they're up for it, too.

I had a friend years ago whose parents forced their beliefs on her and thought that by doing so they could 'cure' her of her 'alternative lifestyle'. Well she really couldn't find any way out of it until she was of adult age and moved out. Now she has limited contact with them, yet doesn't put their beliefs down. Why add more hate and conflict to the situation? She will go to church with them on certain holidays and other family occasions just to avoid conflict...I give her props for having an open mind.

If your integrity is telling you that you will not compromise your own beliefs to appease your parents, you should stand up for yourself. However, this could have consequences in limiting ties with your family. It's quite a messy situation...

Remember that going to church and adopting their beliefs are two different things. Also remember that you're an adult, they can't force anything on you. If you're dependent on them, well that's another story, but you don't want to live a lie either. My heart goes out to you my friend.
Best of luck, let us know how it goes.