My son was dx adhd just in June, although I know he has had it and it went undiagnosed. He also was classified in school as having learning disability in reading comprehension, memory recall, processing directions;and that was diagnoses last February. It has been an uphill climb to get my son diagnosed. His dad had been an opponent and so this has been one mom's battle.

I am a single mother and the father has little to do with his children. He believes I made up the DX. This is a long story, but suffice it to say my son does not have a single positive male role model in his life, other than coaches.

My son's behavior is out of control. He is not on meds. I have an appt with a psychologist next week who, himself, has ADHD. From there, meds are possible. My ex will and has obstructed meds and I need his signature for every dose and change. I will likely need a court order.

I am worried about my son. I can't control his behavior any longer. He curses at me, has called me an Fing *****, etc when tell him it's bed time. He has never been this out of control. He's only twelve. I feel like I can't discipline him. I changed the password on his xbox so he can no longer play. I have heard from several people (including Drs) that xbox can actually be helpful but I don't like the language and the games he plays, and his behavior has escalated towards abusive. I attempt to discipline him and he simply says, "I don't care, go ahead, i dare you, just do it." I've never spanked my kids. I was abused as a child and I can't raise a hand to my children. I am without another parent in the house to back me up. Phone calls to his father are a waste of time and only exacerbate the problem. He will only say, "he's not that way with me" or "I don't know what to say" or, best of all, "he was never that way when I was around. You are driving him crazy."

Is this type of behavior common in ADHD kids. I feel like I'm living with a ticking time bomb. I love my son so much and have done all I can to support him. He is IEP, has had tutors, extra help, and he seems okay at school. Teachers love him. But, he is obssessive over things, like girls, as if he needs it all NOW; then gets frustrated or looses interetest. He has lost friends.

No spell check? I'm exhausted and can't be bothered. I'd really just like some feedback. I'm so afraid he will lose it, hurt someone, himself, or me.