I have my own sexual abuse issues and issues with men in particular. I also have issues with people in authority. I avoid folks and do not give eye contact. Even if I am talking to someone. But with trauma Therepy I have learned skills that make me appear normal for lack of better terms. I can't look people in the eye. One of the first things I learned was to look between peoples eyes or there forehead. This gives the appearence of eye contact. It is much easier then eye contact.

Find a good T. It works wonders. Deprograming I'm not so sure about. Being given new coping skills absolutely possible. Deprograming may be possible it's just something I have no experience with. Best of luck to you.