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Originally Posted by lostmyway21
I know he would never hurt me. He cares about me very much. It's ridiculously obvious...he only tried to tell me this today because he cares about my future and my independence.
Unfortunately it was the worst land mine, or trigger, he could have hit on. I can't handle it yet. Im not stable, or secure enough to tolerate the thought of it without panicking. We will have to learn from this.
I'm on the edge of crisis right now. I know he didn't intentionally do this. But it happened and I need to try and cope, because its to late to get in touch with him.
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I'm wondering what you hope will be learned from all of this....Is it that you're hoping T will learn that the topic is off limits? Or perhaps learn that you can talk about difficult things with some trust and security in the relationship - and without it turning into something catastrophic? Although making the topic off limits would certainly be easier - and it may very well be what you need to get by for now - it would be a great success to work towards the latter.