Your husband sounds a lot like I was-before my wife filed for divorce! It doesn't sound like you have problems that can't be overcome though. You are absolutely correct about your husband's insecurity and self-esteem. It also sounds like he craves attention. Since you know he probably isn't going to change, maybe you could work on his self-esteem. In other words, give him everything you want for yourself. It may take some time if it works at all, but it also may make him aware of his own behavior. Your husband isn't the only one who can fill your needs, try to focus on people that you know will support you the way you need it. The man has a lot to learn, I hope he doesn't have to learn it the way I did. I was a master at criticizing, rationalizing, and justifying.