You also need to remember, this topic came up because YOU asked him a very specific question about why he is so important to you. He replied with an honest answer to YOUR question. What was your fantasy answer? Because when you ask a question like that, you need to understand that the answer your T is going to give you will be honest, will not be your fantasy, and will serve to help you understand the reality of yourself and your situation. That is what happens in therapy.

You keep saying things like why did he do this to you, or saying you know he didn't intentionally do this, etc. He didn't DO this to you at all; he simply gave an honest answer to YOUR question and when it didn't match up with whatever fantasy response you had going in your head (you've been thinking about this question for several days prior because you wrote about it here on PC), you shut down.

His job is not to indulge your fantasy. His job is to help you face reality and grow towards health and independence. That is what his answer was to you and you didn't like it. Your job now is to "hear" his answer in its entirety and learn from it rather than run from it. He said this is going to take time; this isn't going to happen overnight, but it also isn't going to happen if you refuse to "hear" his message. Start listening Lost. You CAN learn to hear and tolerate the truth from your T. You CAN control your reactions so you can slow yourself down enough to listen.