Hey ky, I'm a 24 yr old woman who was completely disowned by her entire family (southern Baptists) bcuz I didn't fit in to there "perfect" little box. Also, the fact my mother was the only family blemish by becoming pregnant before marriage at 16,getting divorced at 22 (the only divorce in the family & they're a BIG family),loses custody of my brother, & she goes and marries a very well educated WHITE man & has a new kid (me), gets divorced Again, and it just keeps going. * I got pregnant when I was 19, also unwed. I had a lot of help at first from my family, but when my father died my mother went a lttle crazy and threw a remote at me (I was her caretaker) so a cps investigation was made due to violence in the home & I had to sign over temporary custody to someone. I chose my aunt who had never married or had children (a lesbian turned celebate bcuz the family told her she'd go to hell) big mistake. I was suddenly unable to see my daughter and the family did nothing to help me, instead I was told I had to prove myself to them and until then I wouldn't be allowed to see her. This was a way to try and make me conform to there ideals and when I didn't they inturn punished me by continuing to tell my caseworker things like " she NEVER tries to see the baby" when really i didn't go bcuz I was told if I did I would be arrested. Eventually I was forced to sign over my full parental rights to my aunt. I have yet to see my daughter and my family is completely ok with the knowledge of the evil they have done since they feel justified in doing so. My point is that you never know the depth of morality in a person of " religious or biblically influenced power or control. So its best keep ur individual beleifs to urself and humor them. Once u r free and on ur own then gradually make them known, pick ur battles. And ur not a parisite. Family should love you and respect you regardlessly. Beyond that maybe u should remind them this the apropriate age to be searching ur soul and trying to solidify ur personal identity & if u find that ur were wrong (although I think ur right ) then they neednt worry as you can repent and be forgiven. Goodluck