You sound angry at your daughter. Don't be. She is a child who is reacting to grief and stress and what *you* taught her about food through your own disorder. You two need to heal together. I know you are upset about the neighbor, but you both need to prioritize. Her daddy is dead? Her mama battled an eating disorder? Sweetie, how could she *not* show symptoms? Nip this in the bud NOW. You have suffered enough! You don't need to lose a daughter on top of all of this!