You may need more time by yourself to straighten some things out before getting into a relationship, unless he is there willing to help you every single step of the way. It's right that you communicated with him about your issues.. but You can't force a person to change...otherwise nobody is going to be happy. Don't rely on other people, rely on yourself, thats the most important thing. I have been there, I look for help outside of myself and need reassurance from others, because I can't see myself through my BF, my life is about me I don't know how to explain, it's a lifelong issue for me, it's tough