It's interesting that you mention guys, because I'd probably be one of them getting my coffee or "standing ovation" and then head outside until your done. Here's something to think about and decide if there is any validity to what I'm about to say.. if you speak in the manner you write it is very dramatic, and I can imagine for a guy it would be an irritant. Some of this drama or dramatics is deliberately created by you for ie... you do a name change for security reasons, and then do two threads about your name change, and exposing your old identity. You also mention that you added it to another forum in addition to this one. It contradicts the purpose of the name change, also not everyone needs to know or cares. You have friends in the forum, send them a pm explaining the situation rather than make a public announcement. This is NOT the only time you've done similar actions. I can think of another time where someone made a comment and I'm not convinced it was even directed at you, but you had to do a thread on how unsafe you felt, and then a thread about why you were leaving pc, because you felt unsafe and you'll miss everyone. I'm NOT saying ALL your threads fall into this category. If you're having a ****** day, if you have something thought provoking write a thread, but if it's something to call attention to yourself or dramatic it might be best to challenge yourself not to write that thread.

It also seems that you have this very "touchy feely, inner child" approach to therapy. I find that people with this approach to therapy seem to have certain expectations of others and from point of view that style of therapy is very dramatic because of that approach. You may think that you're entitled to these expectations, but you're not entitled to anything when it infringes on another person's comfort zone. My guess is men would be most uncomfortable with this approach to therapy. I cringe inside when I'm around people like this. I have two options leave or be incredibly irritated. I leave. My leaving is being respectful from my point of view otherwise you're going to get my thoughts whether you want them or not and whether or not I'm allowed to give them.

It may be disrespectful to you, but it could be very mentally healthy for them.

I suggest you say bpd next time. Go outside of your comfort zone and challenge yourself not to care what others think.

The bolded part is this dramatic "touchy feely" language that I talk about. No one needs to know your usual spiel. The fact, you mention it's your "usual spiel", I think says something. It's almost one of the statements where a person would want to say, "duh!" Trust me people will be able to infer if you take responsibility for your actions or not.

Time limit is not the issue, content is.

This may be one of those situations where you're reading into the situation, because you mentioned "personality disorder". Maybe she was irritated. Maybe she thought you were being childish by tattling on the other group members. Maybe they were being respectful to you by getting up and walking away. They have mental illness too, and maybe your approach infringes on their comfort zone. Be thankful! Maybe their like me, and don't always react nicely to people with this approach to therapy/speech. Regardless, usually people who need to tattle on others want their name to be kept confidential. If you have an issue with someone's behavior make sure their aware you're the one with the issue.

You seem overly concerned about other peoples perception of you, and my suggestion would be to step outside your comfort zone and work on not caring what others think. You can practice this online.

Let me give an example... I use to worry about pleasing everyone or whether or not I offended someone. I'd please one group of people and another group would be pissed off.. I try and please them, and more people would be unhappy. I finally realized that I'm not able to please everyone, but knowing that doesn't make it any easier to accept or apply to my life. What I wrote to you was very blunt and to the point, possibly abrasive. It can be offensive to many, but some appreciate it because what I wrote is content driven. I focus on the ones that appreciate and pay little attention to those that don't. It wasn't always like this, but after doing this several hundred times here and elsewhere it's now easy. While my approach in "real" life is toned down to some extent I've become much more comfortable with the decisions I make, and find it easier to accept not everyone is going to like my decision, and that's ok.