I also have a high need for intimacy and closeness, Rainbow, and will feel hurt at times when a person that I care about puts up a boundary. It's okay to feel angry and hurt. All relationships have boundaries. The other person is respecting and taking care of themselves, and ultimately...even though it can be difficult...that is what we want for people that we care about. T is teaching you how to practice healthy self-care. Is there a part of you who can reach out to your hurt part and offer her some gentle care now?