i'm glad you're working with him on therapy
and we can see how it is hard through his reactions, like when he said yes when you asked if he liked that kind of treatment. i don't mean to judge but it sounded like he was trying to be the adult, you know? at the same time as showing, even if not meaning to, how hurt he is and he still remembers. like "that's how i grew up"... but deep inside, he'll be creating his own judgement on the situation and we hope he will be getting more and more able to review his actions and think before doing anything.

i believe it's never late to put our mind into place and try to get better, so again he needs to learn he now has his own family and responsabilities, and as he has passed through a lot, he is capable to understand whats good and whats not - also understanding what's better for you, his wife, and your kids, and how you deserve all his caring, and the difference he can make. thats why i insist again on enjoying doing even little things, going out and things like that! which will be great for you too, you deserve it
he is late in doing that and he is very lucky he's got you, you're very brave, but don't ever stop thinking of yourself alright?

and, i like what you said: making good memories to overide all the bad memories. really, i like that a lot, thanks for that!