Hey,
You are asking a really hard question. I myself go to couples therapy, and would suggest it number one. If your partner would go with you. But you have a few things to seriously ask yourself. If you left this person, would you feel guilty, or still in love? There is a difference. Sometimes, we are really not communicating well. We put up defences and say things we don't mean. But if there are still feelings, search yourself to see if there are, then learn to communicate differently. Both of you. If this person isn't willing to meet you half way, then this should tell you something. Obviously if there is abuse, this person does not respect you or deserve you. They may care somewhere inside, but that isn't enough with abuse.