>> My son doesn't think she's using the kids as pawns.

Does she give him "valid" reasons as to why they are kept from seeing you? Or does he think that she isn't interfering with visits at all?

I hate to be harsh but if she/they think that you are such a "bad influence" on them and your grandchildren then they shouldn't get any of your "tainted" money or gifts either.

It is absolutely outrageous about the car. A gift is a gift. You shouldn't have had to be responsible for the registration at all, let alone coming up with the cash on their schedule. Gee if it is not a "gift" that meets their "approval" then they shouldn't have that gift at all. Here's the car, take it or leave it! If giving them a gift is going to end up causing you grief it would be best for you just to not offer anything in the future.

I know it is not as easy as that because you want to do right by your son and your grandchildren.

Really I just found that I needed to vent about this a little .

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