Shez I did end up getting the kids in counceling. It has helped. My middle child has autisim and does not see thing as clearly as his older brother. But he does see things and say stuff w/ out thinking. One day he said"Dad are you the real Oscar the Grouch" or " You are no fun to play with". I'm just feel stuck right now. It is starting to pas. I need to let go of the past some to.