Hi kmwg,

I think that at sometime or another, everyone feels a little lost. At leat, I've never known anyone to feel great all the time and not have doubts and fears.

All relationships take work though. You mentioned you kept waiting and perhaps your ex kept waiting too. To me, and I may be completely wrong here (my apologies if I am) that the biggest problem in your marriage was lack of communication between the two of you.

But that's certainly not anything for you to beat yourself up for. Hey, everyone makes mistakes, and God knows I've certainly made my share. And I'm not trying to make you feel badly in saying what I did above.

What I am trying to say (please bear with me here) is that no matter what happened in the past, maybe you can look back upon it and see things that you would do over, if you could.

Why? To keep yourself from making them again, and I too believe you are a very lovable person and have a lot to live for.

I think you're a very strong person, and I believe it because of the strength I see in your writing. I also think you're pretty smart and will be able to find that someone for you. Don't ask me how, as I've never quite figured it out either how one can divorce and find another so fast.

And if you've read my posts you know I'm different from the average guy. I'm not bad (or I don't think so), just different. It seems like I can never find that special one, for whatever reason.

But I also realize it is important to be positive and not sit around waiting. Some things just have to have a little extra push and relationships are that way.

I know too that as a mom and two kids at home, that it isn't as easy for you to get out and meet guys. Hey, supermarkets are a great place to meet them - everyone eats.

And don't beat yourself up because you're not some young sexy thing either. They may have their day, but just because they do, it doesn't mean you can't either. Hey, I'm no spring chicken either. Sighsss.

Sweetie, think positive and make things happen. Sure it may take some doing as I know it is hard to get back in the market. But do it when you feel like it. And only then.

You mentioned you were overweight. Compared to what or who? Sweetie, some guys like skin and bones and there are guys out there that likes a woman with some meat on her bones. God, I hope I said that right. Anyway, none of us are picture perfect.

I guess what I'm trying to say more than anything, is this - You've been through a lot, and it hasn't been something you do everyday, so naturally you feel down. The thing is, you can stop that and make a life for yourself that you will probably enjoy even more. And you have two wonderful kids to share it with.

You hang in there and keep the faith!

Sam