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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I said I was sad  that it had taken nearly ten years to work this out. T said (  gasp!) that it wouldn't have taken so long if she had been a better therapist.
I challenged her on the "faint praise" thing. I wanted her to be more fulsome  in her praise. She said she wasn't going to. I said I could see that, but I was sad about it. "I am doing something incredibly difficult and I need all the encouragement I can get." And I still think she is wrong. 
On retrospect, she is good at praising for results  , but to me, that doesn't make up for the lack of encouragement on the way. |
I'm glad T owned up to her shortcomings.
Your request for T to be more fulsome in her praise.....Did she say why she wouldn't do that? I'd imagine that would be important. Is it to avoid reinforcing that maternal/prince son dynamic? Is it because it wouldn't be genuine to her - because you are trying to mold her into something you want instead of her just being authentically her?
Saying that she is "wrong"....Perhaps it's just not what you want/need....but I wouldn't judge it as "wrong".