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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Hi guys!
We talked about my persecution complex.
T said she'd never heard anyone spell it out so clearly.
I said I was sad  that it had taken nearly ten years to work this out.
T said (  gasp!) that it wouldn't have taken so long if she had been a better therapist.
I challenged her on the "faint praise" thing. I wanted her to be more fulsome  in her praise. She said she wasn't going to. I said I could see that, but I was sad about it. "I am doing something incredibly difficult and I need all the encouragement I can get." And I still think she is wrong. 
On retrospect, she is good at praising for results  , but to me, that doesn't make up for the lack of encouragement on the way.
We also talked about fatherhood, but I'll post that elsewhere if I have the time. |
Can't,
I just LOVE your posts! So intelligent and well-thought out! Nice sequence of events, btw.
She refused to give you more fulsome praise? It is absolutely her. I think she is wrong, too! My xT told me he wasn't going to be my cheerleader anymore and now yours is not giving fulsome praise? What's this world coming to?
At least she took full responsibility for it taking you ten years to come up with your persecution complex sequence. Courageous on her part.
Seriously, though, it is nice to hear some kind of encouragement while you are rolling the big mud ball up the steep hill. That's where all the work goes. When you've completed the task, praise is great, but I guess it would be nice to have both.
Such praise hoarders these therapists can be at times.
I am truly impressed at your ability to creatively articulate your point to your therapist. I like the way you ask her direct questions! It seems like you two have a good relationship. Looking forward to the fatherhood post. Take care!