I have a similar situation. I have depression and ADD and am a recovering anorexic and my husband sometimes talks to me like I am a child. He is very critical at times and he says he is trying to help. He really is a sweet guy but I think he struggles to cope with me with my problems that keep me from accomplishing things in a house with 5 kids in it. I have tried, like you to ask him to focus on the positives for me. He is a very sarcastic person and loves to tease me. Yet he says things that NO ONE should say to an anorexic, OR a depressed person for fear of relapse or other problems. I think your husband sounds similar. Also I think it is hard when you are away from eachother for a time then together again. RE-entry is always hard.

I am so sorry you have this problem. I can talk to you anytime!