Domestic violence I went to the YWCA and each time I backed out of the restraining order because I was worried that he would hurt me (I was obsessive and knew that I would hang out again) and was worried at how strong he really was and remembering him strangling on me before (I was so very frightened of my love) I am away after 9 years. It has been 12 weeks that we been apart and offically broken up. Been dozens of break ups and get back togethers. Glad that I grew more finally and it really ended. It was as hard as having a child and going thru labor for me to do it though. (JUST GIVING MY EXPERIENCE )