You and I are in a similar boat, but the boat is sinking FAST. AIN'T NOBODY GONNA SAVE YO' ***** because they are trying to save their own.
Look, you can try to analyze your problem, and I agree with you about shrinks, but if you do not have a group of friends and family supporting your sobriety, then kiss your ***** goodbye. I am an addict, and active one. I've done the crap you have and ended up a 39 year old alcoholic and drug addict. Is that what you want to be?
Do you think when I was your age that someone came along with wise words to stop me from taking every freakin' drug I could get my hands on. NOOOO. And guess what ,sweetie, it's not going to happen to you. You never stop wanting that as a solution, but it's not going to happen.
I do think positive messages, compassion, empathy and understanding do help, because the lack of it fuels the addiction, BUT you have to have that special fire in you, that refuses to give in to drugs, that says "I deserve better". If you can't ignite that flame, no kind words work.
I should know, I've had a bottle of wine and a little Valium, like every night. It's destroying my life, my health, everything, but I struggle to care.