I couldn't agree more with Eliza Jane. If your T is suggesting that you are not gay (or bisexual), then she is saying that (1) you have been confused/mistaken for all of these years and (2) that you were never in love with or sexually atracted to your partner of 7 years. Doesn't that discount all of the feelings you had/have for her? How do you feel about that?

It also suggests that, eventhough you say you've never felt sexual attraction for a man, that if you work at it, you could "fix" this thing that is "wrong" with you and begin to feel that attraction, because that would be "better." Not only is that homophobic, it also suggests that it's possible to make someone "un-gay"-- which we all know, from those "xgay" ministry programs, is not true.

If you reported that you DID have attractions towards men that you had never explored, and you felt sexually fluid or bisexual, then I think that would be a great thing to explore. As many others have mentioned, many people (though not all!) are attracted to people of many different sexes and genders. But that is something only you can know. I say pay attention to how you feel and notice who you feel attraction towards. No one else can ever TELL you they think you are straight or gay. If anyone tries, then I would suggest that they have an agenda about which way they THINK you should be. But since neither option is better or more natural, there should be no agenda out there.... Well, if someone is attracted to you and wants you to feel the same way back, then maybe we can forgive that agenda... but short of that...